Life Without Conflict 67
Great Injustice in Suppressing those Under Your Shelter
Questioner : I do not get along with my wife at all . No matter what I say , no matter how innocently I say it , and regardless of when I am right , she always takes it the wrong way . There are external conflicts in life , but what is this friction between two of us ?
Dadashri : It ’ s like this . People repress those who are under them to a degree that has no end . People who exercise excess authority over others , be it a wife or a husband , stop at nothing .
You should never quarrel with your family members . How can you quarrel with those you have to share your room with ? No one has been happy by hurting others . We want to achieve happiness by making others happy . If you give happiness in your home , you will get happiness in return . You will even get a decent breakfast , but otherwise your tea will be ruined . Husbands who intimidate their wives are weak . How can you destroy those who are under your protection ? Your highest goal should be to protect those who have been placed in your care . You should protect them even if they make mistakes . These are people of your own family ! See how well we protect the Pakistani prisoners of war ? Outside the home , he barely squeals and will not fight with anyone , but at home , he will do all kinds of mischief . He keeps suppressing those who are under him and he becomes weak and submissive to his superiors . If a police officer reproaches him , he will say , “ Yes sir , yes sir .” But at home , even if his wife is right , he cannot bear it and will start yelling at her . “ How come there is an ant in my tea ?” he will yell at her . You fool ! Why can ’ t you calmly remove it from your tea ? He tyrannizes those at home but he trembles in front of a police officer . This is gross injustice and it does not suit us . Your wife is your partner . How can you fight with your