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Life Without Conflict
that you are worthless, you should just say yes.
Questioner : It would provoke me if my wife were to
call me worthless.
Dadashri : So what is the solution for it? Should you
retaliate and call her worthless twice over? And by doing that
will your own worthlessness disappear? By retaliating, you ruin
your whole day and your meals.
Questioner : What is the intention behind all these talks
of adjustment? Where do we go from there?
Dadashri : The aim is to achieve peace of mind. It is the
art of avoiding unhappiness and discord.
Learn To Adjust From a Gnani
There was a man who used to come home at two in the
morning. What he did before he came home is not worthy of
discussion. You can figure it out yourself. His whole family was
in a dilemma about whether they should reprimand him or not
let him in the house. They did not know what to do with him.
When the eldest brother tried to confront him, he threatened
him saying, “I will not refrain from hurting you.” The family then
came to me for a solution. I told them not to say a word to him,
because it would make matters worse and if they prevented him
from coming home, he would resort to stealing. I told him to let
him come and go as he pleased. They were not to tell him what
was right and what was wrong, nor were they to harbor any
feelings of attachment or abhorrence towards him. On the
contrary, they were to have compassion for him. After three or
four years, he became a changed man. Today he is extremely
helpful in the family business. This world is not worthless; you
just need to know how to handle situations. God resides in each
person. Everyone has his load cut out, so do not have a dislike
towards anyone.