64 Life Without Conflict
If your feet are hurting and your wife is massaging them , and someone comes along and happens to witness this , he will say , “ Wow ! You really are the boss at home ,” you should reply , “ No , she is the one with control ,” because if you say you are in control , she will stop massaging !
Questioner : Is that not flattering her ?
Dadashri : No this is the right way ; all other ways are crooked and wrong . In the current time cycle , this is a different way to be happy . What I am telling you is applicable only to the current time cycle . Why should you ruin your breakfast and your meals for the entire day ?
Do Not Provoke a Reaction
Questioner : By the afternoon , we forget our morning conflicts and the same thing starts over again in the evening .
Dadashri : Yes , I know this . I have the understanding and the knowledge of the power that causes conflicts to arise . I know the power that makes us say the wrong things and the adjustments we take after that . It is possible to understand everything through Gnan , and having said that , we must adjust to this world . Everything in this world eventually comes to an end . However , if certain events seem to linger , you do not help matters by reacting , on the contrary , you make matters worse . When that happens , not only are you hurting others , but you are also hurting yourself . Who has the power to improve things ? Only the one who have improved himself can improve others . How can you improve others if you , yourself have not ?
Questioner : But we can improve others if we improve ourselves , right ?
Dadashri : Yes , you can . Questioner : How can I tell whether I have improved ?