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walk into a wall? The fault is of the one who suffers. What does
the wall have to do with it? It is your fault when you slip and
fall in slippery mud. The mud is just instrumental in the process;
you have to recognize that it is slippery and walk with extra
caution. Mud will always be there and slipperiness is its nature.
Questioner : But what is the reason behind all the
bickering and discord? Is it because of the differences in
personalities?
Dadashri : It is because of ignorance. The very base of
the worldly life is that no two personalities match. The only
solution is to acquire this knowledge: Adjust everywhere. You
have to adjust even when someone hits you.
Questioner : I have a lot of conflicts with my wife and
I am tired of it.
Dadashri : People not only tire from it, but some also
resort to drinking and some even jump into the sea!
What is the greatest suffering of all? It is the suffering that
stems from the inability to adjust. What is wrong in practicing
the principle of, ‘adjust everywhere’ in such situations?
Questioner : For that, we need to make an effort.
Dadashri : No effort is needed. All you have to do is
follow my agna. Tell yourself, “Dada has told me to, ‘Adjust
everywhere,’” and then continue to do so. If your wife says,
“You are a thief,” then tell her she is correct. Then after a while
if she says, “No you have not stolen anything,” then again tell
her she is correct.
The reality is that your entire lifespan is equivalent to only
just one day of Brahma (Creator in Hindu mythology). If you
are to live just one day of Brahma, then why create all this
commotion? If you were to live a hundred years of Brahma,