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have to shake them a little. Is there anything wrong in doing so?
Questioner : Dada, my son makes fifteen hundred
rupees a month and I am retired. I live with him and his wife.
They both keep criticizing me the way I do things or ask me
why I go out. I am going to tell them that I am going to leave
their home.
Dadashri : Do they feed you well?
Questioner : Yes, Dada they do.
Dadashri : Then you cannot tell them you will leave,
because having said so you may not be able to leave and you
will have to swallow your own words.
Questioner : So then, should I not say anything to them?
Dadashri : If you have to, then tell them very calmly, “It
would be good if you did things this way, but really it is up to
you.” If there is a possibility of changing others through your
actions, then go ahead and do it, otherwise you are likely to
aggravate them. So in that case, it is best not to say or do
anything.
For example, a father has four sons. He constantly
rebukes the two who do nothing wrong but says nothing to the
other two who are constantly doing something wrong. The
father is the way he is because of their own karmic accounts.
Have No Expectations From Children
Questioner : Why do parents use the word ‘chiranjivi’
(Long live) to address their children?
Dadashri : If they do not write ‘chiranjivi’, then some
other word will creep in. Do parents not have a desire to see
their son grow up to be a happy man before they die?
Nevertheless, there is also an expectation that he will take care