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laughed when his son was born. Therefore, fathers need to be
aware of what would become of them if they child were to ever
die. Therefore stop rejoicing from today, so that there will be
no sorrow. In which previous life were you without children? It
is nothing new. Even the cats, the dogs and the animals have
children too!
Worldly Interaction Should Be Within Normal Limits
Maintain normality in everything; maintain love in one eye
and sternness in the other. Sternness does not cause as much
harm to others as anger does. Sternness is just a show of anger
without the hurting of others. I too, had to be stern with my
workers and ask them, “Why are you not working?” Certain
situations require that you deal with them in a certain manner.
You must act according to what the situation calls for.
In worldly interactions, an appropriate response is
required, depending on the situation. If an appropriate response
is lacking, the interaction becomes spoiled.
One bank manager told me, “I remain perfectly calm at
home. I do not say a word to my wife or my children.” I told
him he was the ultimate fool and that he was not worth anything
in this world. He thought that Dada would be very happy with
him and reward him. The fool! Can there be a reward for this?
If your child does something wrong, you have to question why
he did it and tell him not to do it again. You have to say it in
a make-believe way, as if you mean it (show emotions without
being emotional), otherwise he will think whatever he is doing
is fine because by not saying anything, you accept his actions.
Children fall apart because you do not say anything to them.
You have to tell them everything, but it has to be in a ‘dramatic’
manner. You have to sit him down at night and talk to him,
explain things to him. Children need to be shaken up a little,
now and then. Although they have some good qualities, you