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ruined, and that he did not know how to perceive things. He
simply did not know how to look at the human beings in his
own home. I told him that his home was a beautiful garden. In
the past time cycles of Satyug , Dwaparyug and Tretayug,
people’s homes were like farms. Some were rose farms, others
were carnation farms, and others were jasmine farms. In the
present time cycle of Kaliyug, the farms have been replaced
with gardens, in which you will find all kinds of flowers. You as
a head of the household are a rose, but you also expect
everyone else in your home to be like a rose. You tell others in
your home, “You are not like me. You are a carnation. Why is
your color white? I want you to bloom and smell like me.” This
is how you keep beating them down. You foolish people! At
least learn to recognize the different flowers. You only have to
recognize and understand each prakruti. What kind of a flower
is this? You should continue to watch each plant until it bears
flowers and fruits to see what kind of a plant it is. Just observe
the differences and when the buds on the plant bloom into
flowers, you will realize what kind of plant it is. Therefore,
interact with that plant with this information in mind. You have
to behave according to the other person’s prakruti. In the past,
everyone in the family, the wife and the children, behaved
according to the commands of the eldest man of the household,
whereas today in Kaliyug, everyone’s prakruti is different and
incompatible with each other. That is why, in the current times
it is necessary for you to adjust with each person’s prakruti in
your home in order to get your work done. If you do not, you
will ruin your relationships. Become a gardener and take care
of your garden. Your wife’s prakruti is different; your son and
daughter’s prakrutis are different. Take advantage of each
prakruti. All relationships are relative, including the one you
have with your wife. This body of yours too, is relative. Relative
means they will leave you if you if you spoil your relationship
with them.