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nothing by saying, “It is incorrect.” Those who perceive it as
wrong or incorrect, suffer a lot. Of course if a couple’s only
child were to die, you cannot tell them, “It is correct.” In
instances such as that, you must say what happened to their
child was very unfortunate. You must express your feelings
naturally. You have to play out your role in the drama of life, but
from within, your conviction should be that whatever happens
is ‘correct’ and move on. Glass is a glass as long it is in your
hands and if it slips and breaks, then say it is correct. Tell your
daughter to be careful as she picks up the broken glass, but
from within say that it is correct.
If your speech does not have anger in it, it will not hurt
the other person. Words spoken in anger are not the only form
of anger. Anger also exists as anguish churning within a person.
To suffer in silence and to tolerate is twice the anger. Tolerance
is similar to putting pressure on a coil. The coil can only sustain
so much pressure. Similarly, one can only tolerate so much
before his ‘spring’ recoils. The breaking point of one’s
tolerance level will be realized when his spring shoots from
having an excessive amount of pressure exerted upon it. Why
do you have to tolerate? You have to solve everything through
Gnan. If any damage occurs to you or your relative world, you
are to simply remain an observer (drashta) and a knower
(gnata) of everything that is going on. This world is only meant
to be seen and to be known.
The Home Is a Garden
One man came to me and began complaining about his
wife. I asked him what his wife was complaining about and he
told me she went around saying, “My husband is shameless and
stupid; he has no sense.” Why must people look for their own
justice in marital matters? He told me his home was ruined and
his wife and children were spoilt. I told him nothing had been