44 Life Without Conflict
it is not an act of benevolence . If a calf did not nurse from its mother , the cow would be miserable from the pain . Mothers feed their youngsters for their own benefit . Fathers raise their children for their own benefit , what is extraordinary about that ? It is all mandatory .
Handle Children like Glass
Questioner : Dada , my children misbehave at home . My scolding has no effect on them .
Dadashri : Have you ever noticed the writing on some packages shipped on the trains ? Do they not say , ‘ Glass- Handle With Care ,’? Similarly , you should practice the same policy at home when interacting with your children . What happens to glass if you keep hitting it with a hammer ? No matter how upset you are , would you throw that package of glass ? Would you not regard the label , right away ? Likewise , you should handle everyone at home as if you are handling glass . Typically if something goes wrong within the home , your immediate response is , “ Why did you lose your purse ? Where did you go ? How did you manage to lose your purse ?” This kind of bombardment is same as hitting glass with a hammer . If parents simply understand the statement , ‘ Glass- Handle With Care ,’ they will be able to deal with the children . They need not be Self-realized for this .
Love is the only way to improve the world . What the world calls ‘ love ’ is not real love ; it is infatuation , attachment . You love your daughter , but would that love exist if she were to do something wrong ? At that time , you get upset with her and therefore it is not love , it is infatuation or attachment .
Live with your children as though you are their trustee . Do not worry or harbor anxieties about getting them married . Whatever happens , just say , “ It is correct .” You will gain