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his own mistakes. You are at liberty to tell him anything, until he
reaches the age of five. Between the ages of five and sixteen,
you may even have to spank him a little if the occasion arises.
Even after the age of twenty, you cannot say a word to him. To
say anything is a crime. He may even kill you one day.
Questioner : Has this puzzle arisen because parents
have become uncertified fathers and mothers?
Dadashri : Yes, otherwise children would not be the
way they are. They would be very obedient. It is the parents
who have no substance. The soil is bad, the seeds are bad, the
goods are bad and yet parents claim and believe their children
will be like Lord Mahavir! How on earth can they be like
Mahavir? What must be the qualities of a mother who is to raise
a mahavir (great soul)! If the father is not quite up to par, it will
do, but what should the mother be like?
Questioner : So should we not even think about trying
to mold our child or teach them moral values?
Dadashri : There is nothing wrong in thinking.
Questioner : The schools take care of their academic
education, but what about the development of their morals and
character?
Dadashri : Leave their molding and development to the
jeweler. Those who are expert at it will do the molding. You can
say things to your child until he is about fifteen years old; you
can mold and shape him to be like you, but later, his wife will
take over. People do not have the skills or the knowledge of
how to mold others, and yet they keep doing it. That is why
their molding is not successful. The nose (his ego) ends up being
two inches longer than it should be and later his wife will come
and reduce it to size! Then he will try to do the same to her and
so starts the conflicts between them.