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when you need money you have to tell me a few days in
advance. Money doesn’t come easily. I have to make
arrangements to borrow that money.” Then you should give him
the money, the next day. You should make them aware of the
fact that money does not come easily. Otherwise, they will think
money comes easy, as if it is flowing from a tap. You should
interact with your children in a manner that helps maintain a
stable relationship. At the same time, they must not become
spoilt and become your oppressors. Parents tend to show so
much affection towards their children that they become spoilt.
Should there be excessive affection? Do you have such
affection for a goat? What is the difference between a goat and
your child? They both have souls within them. There should
neither be excessive affection, nor disinterest in them. You can
tell them that as long as you are alive, you will always be there
for them whenever they run into any difficulties. Do not meddle
in their affairs unless they are in some difficulty. Do not get
excited if you see your child drop money from his pocket. He
will know it when he realizes it himself. Why should you call out
unnecessarily? Why should you create unnecessary havoc?
Besides what would he do if you were not around? Everything
is in the hands of vyavasthit but you meddle in everything
unnecessarily. Even your bodily functions are in the hands of
vyvasthit and whatever is yours, the Self, remains with you.
The only effort (purushartha) you have to make is to remain
in the Self and it is that which is considered your true effort.
This is where you have your own independent control.
Absolutely no effort or control is required as far as this
physical body is concerned. The physical body is completely
dependent upon your prakruti (the inherent nature of your
relative-self).
Once the ego awakens in the child, you cannot say
anything to him. Why must you say anything? He will learn from