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look the other way and sit down comfortably. They can only
accuse you of not saying anything if they see you paying
attention to everything. If nothing else, just turn the rosary. If
they see you doing that, they will not bother you. Besides what
have you to do with all of that anyway? Nagging is fine if you
are going to live forever, otherwise it is not worth saying
anything. Even cows talk to their offspring politely, but they do
not talk excessively, whereas humans keep nagging until they
die. Those who nag are foolish; they destroy their homes
(family). When can there be an end to all this? For endless lives,
you have wandered about the worldly life without doing any
good for yourself or others. Only he, who has done well for
himself by being free from attachment, can do the same for
others.
Why Invite Unnecessary Suffering?
If your child is sick, nurse and take care of him the best
you can, but do it in a superficial manner. How should you
relate to your children? Relate to them as though they are your
stepchildren! As a mother, you can say, ‘my children’ and the
children can say ‘my mother,’ but from within, the bond should
not run deep. Therefore, in this current time cycle, keep your
relationship with your children like they are your stepchildren,
otherwise you will be doomed. Children are not the ones who
will take you to moksha. Your children will become wise, if you
become wise yourself. Is excessive affection a thing to be given
to children? These children, for whom you have so much
affection, are the very people who will stab you. Affection and
attachment will turn into abhorrence. You should live as if you
are being forced to love them. On the surface you can say, “I
love you,” but from within you should know you are showing
this love because you have to, and that this relationship is not
real. You will realize exactly what this true relationship with your
son is all about if you hit and reprimand him for one hour. If he