Life Without Conflict 35
like rocks . This goes for everyone , therefore it is better to say as little as possible . It is not worth saying or telling anyone , anything . On the contrary , you make things worse by your words . If you tell someone not to be late for the train , he will end up being late and if you do not say a word , he will be on time . Everything works fine if you remain silent . Your words are nothing but ego . Children will start to improve from the day you stop nagging them . The words you utter are not helpful and that is why they become agitated . Children do not accept your words and that is why your words bounce back . You should carry out your duties of providing food and shelter for your children and fulfill all your obligations ; nothing else is worth doing or saying . Do you understand that you will not gain anything by telling them anything ? The children are grown up now . Are they likely to fall down the stairs now ? Why are you neglecting your own spiritual welfare ? Your duty towards children is a relative duty . It is not worth interfering in it . Instead of bickering , it is better if you just remain silent . You ruin your mind and the minds of others by bickering .
Questioner : Children do not understand their responsibilities .
Dadashri : The responsibility lies in the hands of vyavasthit . Children are aware of their responsibilities but because you do not know how to communicate with them , you make a mess of things . Your recommendations are only correct if the children follow them . If parents talk nonsense , children ’ s behavior will be senseless too .
Questioner : Children talk back rudely .
Dadashri : Yes , but how will you stop them ? If you stop talking back to them , they will too , and all unnecessary hurtful words will cease . Only then will everyone benefit .
If you get into a disagreement with someone , it will create