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responsibility of a parent is greater than that of the Prime
Minister of India. It is a higher status than that of a Prime
Minister.
Questioner : What is the definition of a certified father
or mother?
Dadashri : Uncertified fathers and mothers are the ones
whose children do not listen to them or obey their instructions;
their children do not like them and they cause problems for
them. Are parents today not uncertified?
Otherwise Remain Silent and Just Observe
A Sindhi gentleman asked me what he should do to
improve his two sons. I replied, “Why did you bring sons like
them? Could you not have selected them? All mangos are
mangos and they even look alike but still we sample them
before we buy them. If you bought two tasteless mangos, two
sweet ones, two sour ones and two bad ones, how can you
expect to have sweet mango juice? What is the point of fussing
about it later? If you brought home a sour mango, to know it
as sour, is Gnan. When you get a sour taste, observe that taste.
You have to observe the prakruti (inherent nature). It is not
under anyone’s control. Every circumstance or an event is a
natural creation. No one can interfere in it nor can anyone
change it and it is vyavasthit.
Questioner : Do children not improve through spanking?
Dadashri : They will never improve. Physical punishment
improves nothing. Try hitting this machine. It will break. The
children too, will break. They may appear intact on the outside,
but they are broken from within. If you do not know how to
give encouragement to others, then remain silent and just drink
your tea quietly. Just watch everyone’s faces. Observe the two
mannequins fighting with each other; you simply have to