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Dadashri : I am not asking you to start behaving that
way immediately. All I am telling you is that you need to have
a firm inner intent that you do not want to hurt anyone. That
inner intent is your firm determination.
[4] Family Organization
What Kind Of Life Is This?
Do you have the knowledge of family organization? In
India, we lack the knowledge of how to organize the family. In
foreign countries, they do not have the understanding of what it
takes to maintain a family. In their culture when children turn
twenty, the parents ask them to move out and live on their own,
so that the ‘love-bird parents’ can live by themselves. They say
it like it is. If the husband and wife do not get along, they will
resort to a divorce. Where are such talks of divorce in our
culture? We have to live together all the time. We fight with
each other and yet we live together.
This is not the way to live life. It is not considered a
family life. If you ask our older ladies how to live life, they will
tell you, “Eat and drink in peace, why do you rush through your
meals?” First, you must ascertain your necessities and then all
the rest is unnecessary. You must also realize it is the
unnecessary things that confuses people and makes them take
sleeping pills.
Why do conflicts arise in a home? Should you not
understand why conflicts arise everyday with your children?
Your son talks back to you, you ask a doctor for some
guidance. How can he help you when his own wife talks back
to him?
We have all kinds of surveys. They have surveys on
cotton, on cloves, on this, or that, but no one has done a survey
of what is going on within all humans.