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Life Without Conflict 27 Dadashri : I am not asking you to start behaving that way immediately. All I am telling you is that you need to have a firm inner intent that you do not want to hurt anyone. That inner intent is your firm determination. [4] Family Organization What Kind Of Life Is This? Do you have the knowledge of family organization? In India, we lack the knowledge of how to organize the family. In foreign countries, they do not have the understanding of what it takes to maintain a family. In their culture when children turn twenty, the parents ask them to move out and live on their own, so that the ‘love-bird parents’ can live by themselves. They say it like it is. If the husband and wife do not get along, they will resort to a divorce. Where are such talks of divorce in our culture? We have to live together all the time. We fight with each other and yet we live together. This is not the way to live life. It is not considered a family life. If you ask our older ladies how to live life, they will tell you, “Eat and drink in peace, why do you rush through your meals?” First, you must ascertain your necessities and then all the rest is unnecessary. You must also realize it is the unnecessary things that confuses people and makes them take sleeping pills. Why do conflicts arise in a home? Should you not understand why conflicts arise everyday with your children? Your son talks back to you, you ask a doctor for some guidance. How can he help you when his own wife talks back to him? We have all kinds of surveys. They have surveys on cotton, on cloves, on this, or that, but no one has done a survey of what is going on within all humans.