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has turned towards the path of liberation. To have made an
adjustment is Gnan. The one who has learnt to adjust is
considered having won. Whatever you have to suffer, you have
no choice but suffer. There is no problem for the one who
knows how to adjust and his karmic account will be cleared.
Everyone can adjust with people who are easy to get along
with, but if you are able to adjust with those who are awkward,
difficult, and stubborn, then you have accomplished your work.
Adjustment is the main thing. To say yes to everything, is
liberation. Even if you give in, nothing is going to happen outside
the realms of vyavasthit. But, if you say no, or you oppose,
then you will have problems.
If both the husband and wife make a decision jointly that
they want to adjust with each other, then it is possible for both
to achieve their goals. Or, if one of you pulls more, the other
should give in more; even then you can resolve matters. A man
has pain in his arm but he tells no one, instead he uses his good
arm to massage the other one. In this way, if you are able to
adjust, you will accomplish your work. Nothing will be
achieved through conflicts. Even though you do not like
conflicts, you still have them do you not? If the other partner is
being adamant and keeps pulling, you should just let go and go
to sleep. But, if you both keep pulling, neither of you will be
able to sleep and your whole night will be ruined. You take so
much care in your worldly transactions, your partnership, your
business, and all related matters, so can you not exercise the
same level of caution in matters of your lifetime partnership with
your spouse? The worldly life is nothing but a factory and a
museum of conflicts. Some household will have a few, some will
have more and some will have a lot.
People do not know how to adjust in their homes but
they sit down to read scriptures about the soul! You foolish
people! Let go of this nonsense! First, learn to do this! You do