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all this?” She replied, “Nevertheless, I will never be able to find
a husband like your uncle.’ Such are the value systems in India!
Who is worthy of being called a husband? It is the one
who maintains and upholds the social structure of the marital
life. Who is worthy of being called a wife? It is the one who
maintains and upholds the same. How can you possibly call
them husband and wife when they break and tear away at the
structure of the marital life? If you get angry with your wife, is
it right for you to break this water pot? Some people even
break their chinaware and then go out and buy new ones. You
foolish people, if you were going to buy them, why break them
in the first place? People lose all sense of what is right and
wrong when anger blinds them.
Men become husbands, but a true husband is one whose
wife will want to look at his face all day long.
Questioner : They do that before marriage.
Dadashri : Really she is casting a fishing line. The fish
thinks this person is very kind and will take care of them, but
try biting on that line; the hook on the line will trap you. It is all
nothing but entrapment!
Sexual Attraction Is Not Love
You can only say you have acquired something worthwhile
from those in your home when they feel love towards you and
they do not like it when you are away and they look forward
to you coming home.
People get married but there is no love. It is only sexual
attraction. If there were true love between them, then no matter
how much they disagree with each other, their love would not
wane. Where there is no true love, it is all simply an attraction.
Attraction means excrement! There used to be so much love in