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up at least three months worth of revenge ! Did you have any attachment with your husband before you married him ? No . So how did you become bound by attachment ? As you sat across the groom under the wedding canopy , you thought to yourself and accepted , ‘ He is my husband , he is a little plump and a little dark .’ He too decided and accepted , ‘ She is my wife .’ The knot of attachment that began at that moment has continued to multiply to this day . This film of the past fifteen years will need to be unwound by you by telling yourself , ‘ He is not mine … he is not mine .’ When these knots are undone then the attachment will be gone , but not otherwise . In reality , your opinions began to form from the day of your marriage . This has led to your prejudices of , ‘ He is like this , he is like that .’ Where were these prejudices before ? From now on , you should decide , ‘ Whatever he is like , I accept him . I was the one that chose him ,’ and besides , is now the time to change your husband ?
Traps Are Everywhere , Where is One to Go ?
What do you do when there is no solution ? You cannot complain or cry about things that have no solutions . This worldly life is mandatory . A person is obligated to carry out his duties even if he does not like the quarrelsome nature of his wife , his brother or his parents ; if he is trapped amongst such a crowd , he has no choice but stay . He feels suffocated by this trap , but where can he go ? There is a wall all around him and he is trapped within . There is a wall of societal pressure ; ‘ What will people say , if I leave ?’ There is also a legal wall . If his predicament drives him to commit suicide at Juhu Beach , the policeman will detain him . He may say to the policeman , “ Look here Sir , please let me die in peace .” The policeman will say , “ Sir we cannot let you do that . Suicide is illegal so I will have to arrest you .” So , they will not let you die and neither will they let you live ; that is called ‘ worldly life ’. Therefore , just try to live peacefully , smoke your cigarette and rest . Such is this worldly