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the other person is pointing it out, so destroy your mistakes. No
one is able to harass anyone in this world; that is how
independent the whole world is. And whatever trials and
tribulations you have to face are because of your own past
misdeeds, your own karmas. Destroy your mistakes and you
will not have to deal with any more accounts.
If someone raises a red flag at you, you must understand
that you are at fault somewhere, so ask the other person why
he is raising the red flag. When he tells you your mistake, you
should ask for his forgiveness and ask him if he would wave a
green flag at you from now on and he will say yes.
No one holds a red flag in front of me. I do not proceed
until I see green flags from everyone. If I am leaving to go
elsewhere and someone raises a red flag at me, I will stop and
ask him why he has objections. He may say, “The other day
you said you were not going to leave until next week, so how
come you are leaving early?” I would clear the air with him and
explain to him that certain matters have come up and therefore,
I have no choice but to leave. He would then willingly say,
“Then please go. I have no objection.”
People wave red flags at you because of your mistakes,
but if you take the trouble to clear up the air, then no one will
object. Instead, when people raise a red flag, you start ranting
and raving, “You idiot! Why are you behaving this way? What
is your problem?” This is how you attack them. You do not
realize that you are creating a whole, new problem. When
someone waves a red flag at you, understand that something is
wrong. Otherwise, no one would do so.
How Can You Afford To Have Altercations Everyday?
Dadashri : Do you have quarrels in your home?
Questioner : Yes.