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I do it on purpose? He slipped out of my arms and that is why
he fell.”
Questioner : But he is telling a lie, is he not?
Dadashri : Whether he tells a lie or not is not your
concern. Whether he tells the truth or tells lies, it is of his own
freewill; he is not dependent upon you. He will do as he
pleases. If he wants to tell a lie, or do away with you, that is
in his control. If he were to poison your water at night, you will
die for sure! Therefore, you need not concern yourself with
what is not under your control. If you know how to speak
properly, you should say, “Dear what did you gain by doing
that?” and maybe then he will admit his mistake. You do not
know how to speak properly; you just lash out and so he will
retaliate with double the force.
Questioner : If I do not know how to speak to him
properly, what should I do? Should I remain silent?
Dadashri : Remain silent and observe. What do you do
when you see little children being abused in a movie? Everyone
has the right to say something, but only if it is not going to result
in conflict. It is foolishness to speak in a manner which results
in conflict.
Pratikraman for Words That Hurt
Questioner : If someone is doing something wrong,
what should we do if it hurts him if we caution him? How do
we resolve that situation?
Dadashri :, You have to caution them from the worldly
perspective, but because this happens through the ego, you
have to do pratikraman.
Questioner : If I do not caution him, will he not end up
dominating me?