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relative; it is not real. Money, whether it is real or unreal, will
be of no use over there on the path of liberation, so let go of
your stubbornness and get your work done. Worldly life means
receiving what you had given in the past life. If someone were
to say, “Chandubhai has no sense,” then you should understand
that you are getting back what you gave previously. If you
understand this, only then it is called ‘vyavahar’, but as such
no body knows how to conduct their worldly life. The one
whose relative is relative and his real is real, the one established
in the knowledge of the Self, is indeed superficial in worldly
interactions.
Quarreling Will Stop If You Say It the Right Way
(Samyak)
Questioner : If someone deliberately throws away
something useful, how should we adjust?
Dadashri : In this case, you are talking about some kind
of object, but even if for example, he were to drop your little
toddler, you have to observe that too. When your husband drops
your son, you have to just observe. What else can you do, are
you going to throw the husband away also? You’ll have to seek
medical care for the baby, but do you want to put your husband
in the hospital also? And when he has the opportunity to do
so, will he not beat you? Do you want triple the medical bills?
Questioner : So should I not say anything at all?
Dadashri : You can, but you have to use the right words
with the right tone. Otherwise, what is the point of barking like
a dog? So whatever you say must be said properly.
Questioner : What do you mean by ‘properly’?
Dadashri : If you exclaim, “Oh ho ho! Why did you
drop the baby? What was the reason?” He will reply, “Would