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Life Without Conflict
Why do people have differences of opinions? If your
wife’s revolutions are at a hundred and yours are at five
hundred, there will be conflict if you do not know how to apply
a counter-pulley. Many times even the engine breaks down. Do
you understand what I mean by revolutions? When you talk to
a laborer, your point will not reach him. His revolutions are at
fifty, yours are at five hundred and someone else may be a
thousand and another person may have twelve hundred. The
revolutions are dependent upon an individual’s development.
You will only get your point across to the other person if you
employ a counter-pulley and decrease your revolutions. I use a
counter-pulley with everyone. It is not just a matter of getting
rid of the ego; I also have to use a counter-pulley with
everyone. That is why I never have any differences of opinions
with anyone. I am able to understand the person I am dealing
with and his limited revolutions, and therefore I use a counter-
pulley. I also get along very well with children because I will set
a counter-pulley of forty revolutions with them so that they are
able to grasp what I am saying, otherwise the machine will
break down.
Questioner : Should we speak only after coming down
to the level of the other person?
Dadashri : Yes, you should only talk after you come
down to their level. Even as I talk to you, my revolutions go all
over the place. If you do not know how to use a counter-pulley,
what fault is it of the one with fewer revolutions? It is your own
fault for not knowing how to use a counter-pulley.
Words Lead To Havoc
Questioner : I cannot take adjustment because I am
afraid of my husband and I am afraid of the future; during such
instances, I forget your aphorism, ‘Who are we to improve
others?’ and I end up giving advice.