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Life Without Conflict
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Questioner : Often I have to adjust with two people at
a time over just one issue. How can I deal with situations like
that?
Dadashri : You’ll be able to do so with both of them.
You can even do that with seven people at a time. If one of
them asks, “What about me, what will you do for me?” you can
tell him, “Yes I will do as you ask.” You can say the same to
yet another person. Nothing is going to work outside of what
is vyavasthit, so avoid conflict under any circumstance.
It is because you label everything as ‘good’ or ‘bad’, that
you are harassed so. Make both the good and the bad equal.
If you call this good, the other becomes bad and it will bother
you. But, if you mix the two together, you will not be affected.
‘Adjust everywhere’, is a principle that I have discovered.
Adjust with the one who is telling the truth and also with the one
who is not. If someone tells me that I have no sense, I would
tell him that I never had any to begin with. I would then ask,
“Why have you come looking for it now? You just discovered
this today, but I have always known this.’ If you say this, there
will be no conflict. He will not come to you again looking for
sense. If you do not do this, when will you ever reach your
home, liberation?
I am showing you this simple, straightforward solution. It
is not everyday that you get into an argument is it? It only
happens when your past karmas come into fruition, and when
that happens, you only need to adjust as much as the situation
requires. If you quarrel at home with your wife, then after the
quarrel take her out to a restaurant and make her happy. There
should be no scope for harboring grudges.
Adjustment is justice. Any form of insistence is not
justice. I never insist on anything. We have a saying, “Use
whatever water you have to in order to cook the beans.