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his temper or get angry, has tremendous influence. I never get
angry with anyone or tell off anyone. Yet people are in awe and
have reverence for me.
Questioner : So then, will she improve Dada?
Dadashri : This verily has always been the way to
improve others. In this Kaliyug, people find it hard to follow
this. There is no other alternative.
Questioner : But that is very difficult.
Dadashri : No, it is not difficult. It is the easiest way. A
cow has to bear the weight of its own horns.
Questioner : But she will also attack us with her horns,
will she not?
Dadashri : Sometimes you may get hurt. If there is
likelihood of getting hurt by her horns, then you can move out
of the way. In the same way, you should move away when it
comes to your wife too. Where do your problems lie? It is in
your belief: ‘I married her and she is my wife.’ Look, there is
no such thing as ‘wife’ and ‘husband’. Since there is no
husband to begin with, how can there be a wife? These are all
acts of ignorance. Where is the trace of Arya culture
nowadays?
Improve Your Self Only
Questioner : If in all situations I were to accept that I
am the one with mistakes, then will doing so improve my wife?
Dadashri : You have to improve yourself if you want to
improve others. No one can be improved. Those who try to
improve others are all egotistic. If you improve yourself, the
other person will improve without fail. I have seen men who
have set out to improve others and yet their own wives and