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will become very smooth. What are you going to take with you
when you die? And if someone tells you to straighten your wife
out, and you try to do that, you will become ‘twisted’ in the
process. Whatever your wife may be like, accept the situation
a being correct. If your relationship with her were eternal, then
it would be a different matter, but she is your wife for this life
only. You both will die at different times and you both have
different karmas. There is nothing to give or take here. Who
knows whose home she will go to after this life? You may end
up improving her, but she will end up as someone else’s wife.
Questioner : If I bind karma with her, surely we will get
together in our next life.
Dadashri : Yes, you may get together, but in some other
way. She may come to your house to visit as someone else’s
wife. There are principles to the laws of karma, are there not?
And here, there is no guarantee. Some people with a lot of
punya may end up spending several lifetimes together. You
know that Lord Neminath and Rajul were together for nine life
times; and it would be a different matter if that were the case
with you. But here, you do not have a clue about your next life.
People separate and go their own way just in this life, do they
not? They call it divorce, do they not? Just in this life, some may
have two or three husbands.
The Way to Improve Other in This Era
You should not try to improve her and neither should she
try to improve you. Whatever you have is gold. No one’s
prakruti ever improves; a dog’s tail will always remain crooked
so you must exercise caution. Regardless of your wife’s
personality, accept her as she is and adjust everywhere.
If an occasion for reprimanding arises but you do not say
anything, then she will improve. A person, who does not lose