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Life Without Conflict
In the Relative World, Keep Mending
These are all relative relationships; if they were real, then
it would be worth your while insisting that you won’t rest until
your wife changes or improves, but that is not the case. Relative
means is when the husband and wife fight with each other for
one hour, and then start thinking about a divorce, causing this
seed to grow into a big tree. If you have a need for a wife, then
even if she keeps tearing away at the relationship, you will have
to keep mending it. Only then will this relative relationship last,
otherwise it will break. Your relationship with your father is
relative also. People believe their relationships with their fathers
to be real; they become obstinate about trying to improve him.
Let go you fools! He will die before he improves; instead why
not just take care of the poor man so he will not bind revenge
with you before he dies. Why not let him die peacefully? His
stubbornness is his own responsibility. He will have to bear the
weight of his horns. Some people have horns twenty feet long
but you should not carry the weight, should you?
You have to fulfill your obligations, but you do not have
to become uncompromising and adamant in the process. Bring
about a quick solution. However, if the other person keeps
fighting with you, you can tell him, “I have always been dumb.
I do not know what to do.” Detach yourself from people in
anyway that you can and do not worry about him or her taking
control and dominating you. What can anyone do to you? No
one has the power to do so. People are dictated by their own
karmas, so no matter what, live each day without any conflict
and worry about tomorrow when it comes. And, if there is a
conflict the next day, do the best you can to bring about a
resolution. This is how you should pass your days.
Futility in Trying To Improve Others
If you adjust to the other person in every matter, your life