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“She’s too tall.” “She’s too short.” “She’s too fat.” “She’s too
thin.” “She’s too dark.” You fool! Is she a water buffalo or
something? You should explain to your son the method for
choosing a bride: go and see the girl and if your eyes are
attracted, then that is the sign and the cue to get married and
if there is no attraction, then he may say no.
Insult & Vengeance
In arranged marriages, when young men go to choose a
bride, they scrutinize the girls and tell them, “Turn around, turn
this way, turn that way. Stand this way.” One boy was doing
this, so I told him, “Your mother was a daughter-in-law once
too. What kind of a man are you?” How insulting is it to the
woman!” Today there is an overabundance of girls and that is
why girls are being insulted so. In the times gone by, these very
fools were the subject of ridicule themselves and now they are
getting even. In their past lives, five hundred or so of these
foolish princes would present themselves in a line one after
another at a king’s court hoping to be the chosen one for the
princess’s betrothal. As the princess would walk by with a
garland for her potential groom, these fools stood begging with
their necks extended forward, each assuming he would be the
one! As the princess walked past them, each fool felt so
insulted, that he would not bleed even if he got cut. What an
unbearable insult! And that too for the sake of simply getting
married! It is better to remain a bachelor.
Nowadays, even girls scrutinize the boys and make them
turn this way and that way, saying, “Let me see how you look!”
Just imagine! You are the one who discovered this system of
scrutiny and now you are the victim of it. Just look at your
predicament! Instead, is it not better to have no such systems?
You dug the hole and now you have to lie in it!
It is only in the past five thousand years or so that men