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more. Happiness should be such that it never makes you
uneasy. Behold the bliss Dada experiences, eternal bliss!
People get married to be happy, but on the contrary, they
feel even more suffocation after doing so. People get married
with the expectation of finding a companion who can be their
security blanket or safety net, do they not? There is attraction
towards the worldly life, but once you enter it, you find it
suffocating, but then you cannot get out. There is a saying:
“The one who eats the wooden ladoo regrets doing so,
but so does the one who does not eat it.”
People get married and then they regret doing so. Regret
however, brings experiential knowledge. Is it not necessary to
learn through experience? Is it possible to attain detachment
(vairagya) towards the worldly life by merely reading books?
Detachment is acquired only through regret.
Choosing a Life Partner
There was a girl who did not want to get married so her
parents brought her to me, and I explained to her, “In life one
has no choice but get married and thereafter one has no choice
but regret getting married!” I told her that it would be better for
her to leave aside all her crying and protests, and just get
married. I told her that no matter what kind of a man she
married, she would have a husband. Having a husband will stop
people from pointing a finger at her. I explained to her the
science of how girls should decide on a husband. She
understood and got married. She did not find her husband
attractive, but married him nevertheless because that is what I
told her to do. She acquired Gnan before getting married and
she did not cross or question a single word I told her. She is
very happy now.
Boys are very critical when it comes to choosing a bride.