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world, you are under arrest. So here too, you should do as you
are told.
Does your wife cook for you?
Questioner : Yes she does.
Dadashri : She feeds you, she makes your bed, and she
does your laundry, what else? And even if she does not make
your bed, you can make it yourself and solve the problem.
Explain everything patiently. Are you going to find your
solutions in the ‘Bhagvad Gita’? This is something you will have
to understand for yourself.
‘Husband’ means the wife of the wife! But here, men
only act as husbands; as bosses. You fools! Do you fear your
wife is going to become your husband? To be a husband means
to be a wife of the wife. There should be no loud noises or
raised voices in your household; are you a loud speaker? Some
husbands speak so loudly that they can be heard at the end of
the street! You should live like a guest in your home. I too live
like a guest at home. If you do not find happiness as a guest
of nature, what happiness do you expect to find in your
married life?
She Will Avenge the Beatings
Questioner : Dada, many times I loose my temper and
hit my wife.
Dadashri : You should never hit a woman. She will
remain silent as long as you are strong, then she will overrule
you. Beating a woman and beating the mind are the causes that
will make you wander life after life. You can never beat these
two. You have to explain things to them and reason with them
in order to get your work done.
I had a friend who would slap his wife the minute he saw