90 Life Without Conflict
missed the nine o ’ clock train , so she will make a comment like , “ How careless of you that you miss your train !” He will then get irritated and think to himself , “ Even if God were to say such things , I would beat him up !” But what can he do here ? This is how husband and wife meddle without any reason . It ’ s like putting sand in your tasty basmati rice and eating it . What possible enjoyment can you get eating that rice ? Husbands and wives should help each other . A wife should speak with her husband in a manner that will not cause him to worry and the husband should do the same . He should understand how difficult and frustrating children can be when they do not behave . If things break in the home , he should not complain or get angry . Some men make a big fuss over broken crockery or china ; they will blame the wife and keep reminding her . The wife in turn retaliates and they will fight over the most insignificant things .
Hiraba and I never have any differences of opinions ! I never interfere with anything she does . Even if she happens to drop some money , I will not say to her , “ Do you know you ’ ve dropped some money ?” I never interfere with any domestic matters and she never interferes in any of my business matters . She never questions what time I will wake up , when I will take my bath , or what time I will come home or leave home . Sometimes she tells me to take an early bath and I will do so without questioning her . I will even fetch my own towel and clothes because when she tells me to take an early bath , she is waving a red flag ; she must have a reason to do so . Perhaps the water is going to be shut off or something , therefore I understand . You too , should gradually try to understand that no one should interfere in anyone else ’ s business .
If a police officer were to arrest you and take you away , do you not do as you are told ? Wouldn ’ t you sit where he told you ? You should understand that as long as you are in this