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Take this railroad for example; there are so many
different functions going on, so many signals being fed from so
many directions, that it is a department all by itself, and
therefore mistakes are inevitable. In the same way, there may
be mistakes in your wife’s department. But, if you start pointing
out these mistakes, she will do the same to you. She will start
to complain, “You do not do this,” and “You do not do that.”
She will get even with you. If I were to start pointing out your
mistakes, you would do the same to me. A wise man would
never interfere in domestic matters; that is a real man! Some
men are like women; they go into the kitchen and check all the
spice containers. They’ll say, “We bought chili powder two
months ago and it’s already finished?” You fool! If you worry
about the chili powder, when will it all end? Don’t you think that
she knows her responsibilities? Things get used up and you
have to buy more, so why must you meddle in it when there is
no need? The wife too, will come to know that her husband is
not very bright. Just as a horse comes to know the way of its
rider, the wife too will come to know all about her husband. It
is better that you stick to your turf and she sticks to hers. We
have a saying, “If the father-in-law remains in his boundaries,
then the daughter-in-law will show her respect.” Your
interactions will only be ideal if you have principles and limits.
Do not cross the boundaries of your limitations; remain pure
in these matters.
Questioner : In which of her husband’s affairs should
the wife not interfere?
Dadashri : She should not interfere in any of his affairs
of business. She should not concern herself with how much
business he conducts day in and day out. She should not
question why he comes home late. Some women question,
“Why did you come home late today?” The husband will say he