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comes Mr. Rooster and Mr. Elephant! You men do not want to
become like Lord Rama, but you look for a Sita (ideal woman)
in your home! You foolish men, Lord Rama would not even
employ you! Nevertheless, you are not to be blamed. You just
do not know how to deal with women. You businessmen do not
even know how to deal with your customers. That is why
employing sales people, is a great practice. If you employ a
salesman who is good looking and clever, people will even pay
a little extra. In the same way, you men should know how to
interact with women. On one hand, you must regard her as
divine and on the other hand, you must understand her conduct;
maintain love in one eye and sternness in the other. Only then
will you be able to maintain a balance. If you regard her as
divine and put her on a pedestal, she will be led astray, so
maintain a balance.
Departments: Husband’s & Wife’s
The man should not interfere in the woman’s affairs and
the woman should not interfere in the affairs of the man. Each
should remain confined to his or her own departments.
Questioner : What is the woman’s department? What
should men not interfere in?
Dadashri : Cooking, running the household etc., are
women’s responsibilities. Why do men need to know where
their wives buy the groceries? It is a different matter if she
consults you for something, but if not, what possible reason do
you have to meddle? Additionally, what is the need for you to
tell her what to cook? When the time comes, your dinner will
be served. Her department is her own. If at times you crave
certain food, you may ask her, “Can you make ladoos today?”
I am not asking you to remain silent at all times, but you men
have a habit of needlessly commenting on the cooking; “There’s
too much salt in the vegetables,” or “There’s too little salt,”
there is no need for that.