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worthiness. Your household is running smoothly, the children are
studying well, and there are no problems, but even then, you
find faults and complain; you become cantankerous without any
reason. When you do this, your wife immediately assesses your
intellect, and realizes that you have no substance.
Even if you are not worthy of riding the mare, if you
stroke her gently, she will give you her affection. If you can
overlook many of your wife’s shortcomings or mistakes, then
she will be impressed with you, but instead you accuse her of
making mistakes when she makes none. Many men complain
about issues regarding women’s responsibilities and chores; it is
all unnecessary. Many bosses are such that they interfere in the
clerk’s business; the clerks are aware that their boss is
mediocre and has no substance but what can anyone do? His
merit karma has made him a boss, but at home, he has
unresolved quarrels with his wife every fortnight. If someone
asks him why he has problems with his wife, he will say, “She
has no commonsense,” and yet his intellect is such that no one
will pay even a dime for it! If we ask his wife, she will say,
“What is there to talk about? There is nothing in him worth
talking about.”
If you hurt a woman’s pride, she will never forget it; she
will remember it for the rest of her life. The feelings of hurt and
resentment will remain alive, up until her funeral. If women
could forget their hurt, this world would have come to an end.
So beware of the fact that they cannot forget. You have to be
cautious about everything you do.
You have heard the term ‘stri charitra’ (female behavior),
however it is not something that can be understood. What is
more, women are also referred to as divine beings. It means
that if you regard her as a divine, you will become divine.
Otherwise, you remain like a rooster or an elephant. Here