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but not her memory! Whatever you give to a woman, she will
store it in a very appropriate place, her heart; so do not tell her
anything! You cannot afford to say anything hurtful and besides
nothing is meant for hurting. You have to be very cautious.
That is why it is written in the scriptures, “It is easy to
play with a woman, but when she gets upset, you are doomed!”
So you cannot keep picking on her, you cannot complain,
“Why are the vegetables cold?” or “The daal does not have
enough salt.” Why must you nag so? It is acceptable if you
complain once in a while, but for you it is an everyday affair.
There is another saying, “If the father-in-law keeps within his
boundary, the daughter-in-law will show respect.”
You have to maintain your boundaries. If the vegetables
are cold or the daal does not taste good, it is well within the
laws of nature. If you find it unbearable, then you say something
like, “These vegetables tasted very good the other day when
they were hot.” If you say it like this, then she will get the
message.
The Uncertified Rider
A man buys a mare for eighteen hundred rupees and tries
to sit on her. First of all, he does not know how to sit on a
horse and on top of that, he aggravates the horse a little. She
has never been needled before so she immediately jolts up in a
standing position, throwing the fool to the ground. Then the fool
complains to everyone that the horse threw him off. To whom,
can the mare defend herself? If you do not know how to sit on
her, whose fault is it, yours or hers? The mare too, understands
the moment he mounts her, that some untamed animal is getting
on and that he does not know how to sit. The women of India
are noble and respectable. If you do not know how to deal with
them, then naturally they are going to throw you off. If a
husband goes against his wife just once, he will lose all his