There’s nothing wrong with having feelings and emotions.
Where the problem arises is how they’re managed. Do they
have the rule over you? Remember, what comes first? A
thought? Feelings and emotions soon follow.
Were you created to follow your feelings and emotions or were
they created to be in service to you? When your feelings and
emotions have the rule over you it’s just a matter of time
before you end up in the wrong place.
Think about the basketball player who’s at the free throw line
with 100,000 spectators in a frenzy. Is it his body or his mind
that executes the play?
He is not using his brain to achieve this, even though it may
seem so. The brain is about intellect. If this were all about
intellect and brains and smarts then he could just study and
rationalize it and say, “I’ll just ignore everything and everyone.”
This is not all about intellect. This is the mind, making it a
spiritual matter. You’ve got to adopt spiritual laws to override
how your body and feelings are telling you to react. You can
rise above it, or be in it but not of it. That’s how you want to
learn how to conduct yourself when you are provoked by a
teammate, when you break up, when you get put on
punishment, and when you don’t make the starting lineup.
You’re going to need coping skills; skills that you can carry
with you for the rest of your life.
Is this something you’ve ever considered? You don’t want to be
numb and suppress your feelings in order to satisfy other
people’s discomfort and inability to comfort you or help you
navigate them.
Perhaps the reason your loved one or friend is silent when you
are upset is because they have no idea what to say to help you.
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