LEAD Magazine Issue 2019 | Page 55

LEAD MAGAZINE | 2019 As a Performance Coach with nearly thirty years in the profession, it has been my observation that there are two main things that hold people back from realizing their full potential. During these three decades I have had the great honor of working with people of every size, shape, color, ethnicity, and faith system. I’ve coached and trained people on every inhabited continent of the world and can tell you the two main things that hold people back are blockages in their mindset causing them to never actualize their success frequency or vibration and then comes self deception. Even though achieving breakthroughs in mindset, and actualizing our success frequency/vibration are, by far, the most important, today I will approach the subject of self-deception. I choose to write about self- deception instead of mindset because while Conscious Leadership requires us to improve towards mastering both, there has been far less time and coaching applied to the subject of self-deception. So how will conquering self- deception aid us in developing and applying Conscious Leadership? When we carry out that which the universe desires of us we place ourselves in the flow of developing conscious leadership. This allows us to serve our fellow humans at our full potential. All success, all leadership, everything we do in our journey, should be done from a position of service. Conscious Leadership, I believe, is all about serving humanity and to best serve, we must find the music that makes us dance. At fifty-three years of age - Notice I didn’t say fifty- three years old. I am often asked how I got to a place of living such a Blessed and Happy life! My answer seems simple at the surface but is complex at many levels. When asked, I say: “I live life on my own terms and according to my own dreams” and for some who ask, that answer is enough. For myself and for those who desire deeper understanding, the answer requires more explanation. My life is not extravagant, in fact my lifestyle is fairly simple but it is the lifestyle I have chosen, the one that is true to me, the music that makes ME Dance. I do not drive a Rolls Royce nor do I fly in a private jet! I drive a pick up truck and fly commercial. I live in a small town in the Midwestern State of Missouri where life is slow and family runs deep. Some would consider where and how I live to be boring and when I was younger I would have agreed. I often allowed the things other people said were the ideal dreams or ideal lifestyle to effect my own dreams and plans, I allowed other people to “Tune My Radio” to the station they thought was right and I went right along! … THAT was ME practicing Self Deception! Our dreams are directly connected to our passion and our passion is directly connected to our purpose. Living out our purpose is where we will find our greatest joy. I regularly tell my coaching clients to tune their radio to the station (frequency) that makes THEM Dance and forget what everyone else thinks you should be pursuing. When I started the path that lead to me becoming a Missouri Senator it was largely based on the input and influence of others, it was them wanting me to dance to their music and I did! After serving twelve years in the legislature I realized I was hiding out doing good when I had been built to do something great! I walked away at the end of that term even though I had no opposition for reelection and could have easily walked in to another term in the senate! It was time for me to apply conscious leadership in my own life and be true to my own dreams, goals, and desires that had nothing to do with politics. What are your TRUE Dreams, Goals, and Desires? When we allow our consciousness to become tuned in to our deepest inner passion and purpose, we will have found the pursuit of that which will bring the truest and deepest happiness for ourselves but perhaps more importantly, we will find that that pursuit is wrapped in what the universe has called us to become. Should YOU own a Rolls Royce and a Private Jet? Maybe! I am a fan of “The Finer Things” and I love helping people get such “things” as long as the possessions don’t posses them! As long as they are tuned in to the music that makes them dance! So many seemingly successful people are actually miserable and it’s because they have their radio tuned to a station that plays music that doesn’t make them dance! They are forcing themselves to dance to music that doesn’t MAKE them dance. We must stop dancing to someone else’s favorite song and find the one we are actually supposed to dance to…. Tune in to The Music that Makes You Dance! When you do, you will become the Self Actualized, Conscious Leader The Universe is asking you to be, you will serve and bless others at your greatest capacity and you will find happiness that transcends things. Go for it!! As a Speaker, Coach, and Consultant, Brian has had the great privilege of traveling the globe where he’s done everything from small workshops in Nashville to sharing the stage with Les Brown in front of crowds of thousands. Whether it’s the amazing content that he teaches for Black Card Books at a workshop in Dallas, or London, speaking on a Get Motivated Stage in California, or Business Squared Events in Australia, he enjoys seeing the world and helping people achieve breakthrough everywhere I go. Brian served ten years Active Duty as a US Navy Corpsman (mostly serving with Marines), eight years in the Missouri House of Reps (seven years as Majority Whip) and was then elected to the Missouri Senate in 2010. He was elected State Senator in November 2010 after serving eight years in the Missouri House of Representatives, 98th district. Brian has ten years of active duty as a US Navy Corpsman. Today he is the Business Owner of Nieves Enterprises International and the host of a morning talk radio show called “The Patriot Enclave”. Brian is the author of “The Dirty Dozen, 12 Simple Changes To Boost Your Income, Relationships, Career, or Business” He has been married to Julie for thirty years and have three kids, Alexandra, Moriah and Victor. They also now have an amazing grand baby, Monroe Josephine. www.linkedin.com/in/senator-brian-nieves 55