mean you get to dust off your passive-aggressive tendencies and use
“humor” to zing your partner with little digs or critiques. What it
means is that you have our permission to go out and have fun. So,
create fun times together by mixing things up a little. Try dance
lessons, improv, a cooking class.
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When we decided to bring the fun back into our relationship, we
cooked a whole meal together wearing Groucho Marx glasses. Of
course we felt silly — and that was the whole point!
4. Want to spice up your relationship? Ditch all negativity!
Why are we so inclined to focus on what’s bad instead of what’s
good? Every relationship (including ours, once upon a time) contains
at least some negativity, and the amount of negativity in a relationship
is directly proportional to the amount of trouble it’s in. Negativity
includes any/all words, tone of voice, facial expressions and/or
behavior your partner says feels negative to him/her. And yes, rolling
your eyes counts.
You see, negativity is like rat poison; nothing can grow in it! So, if
you want your relationship to grow, you’ve got to get rid of all
negativity. Yes, all of it. We finally did, and in fact, our zero tolerance
policy is the single most effective strategy we’ve used to create real
love.
These truths can help you become better partners for each other, and
to create a marriage full of real, lasting love and a blissful connection.
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