that just isn’t going to happen. Your spouse is human, not divine.
Your spouse may be great but you can’t expect them to be your Eden.
2. We fail to create a stable marriage when we think its all
about ourselves.
To quote from Rick Warren’s book The Purpose Driven Life , “It’s
Not About You.”
But, we do make our marriages all about US. When it comes to
relationships, we think only of ourselves and our needs. I admit I’m
REALLY selfish. I want my Beautiful Wife to take care of all of my
wants and needs. But what if I shifted my perspective a bit and
focused on serving her and actually asked questions about what she
desires? When it comes to serving my wife, I am often inconsiderate
and that causes problems. I have to remember that my marriage is not
all about me.
3. We fail to create a stable marriage when we make the
other person the center of our life.
We all love a good romantic movie. I’m a sucker for “The American
President” with Michael Douglas and Annette Bening. But life and
marriage don’t work like they do in the movies. You can’t just run
around always thinking about that special someone. I believe that
marriage is the most important relationship we can have on this
planet; however, if you make your mate the one and only center of
your universe, your life is gonna be screwy. I said earlier that
marriage is not all about you, but guess what? Marriage is not all
about your spouse either. You can’t be around your spouse every
waking minute. That’s just creepy. Give your spouse the space to
grow and be who they are.
4. We fail to create a stable marriage when we make being happy
the most important thing in our lives.
I think married couples should be happy. If they aren’t happy they
should be working on being happy. But happiness isn’t the most
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