Lash-Ed Issue 3 October 2018 - Page 54

One of the most important decisions you will ever to make in your career is deciding to go it alone. Being self-employed is a scary world especially, if like me, it’s all new to you.

Gone are the 9-5 days, having evenings and weekends to yourself and the reassurance that no matter if you have been off sick or on holiday the payslip will still be there for you at the end of the month.

So why in the world have you decided to rip this security blanket from yourself? I’ll tell you why because you strive for better, a better life that is.

We only get one shot at this so why settle for anything less than you deserve! And to be honest lets face it yes the security of the monthly paycheck was, ok, but were you happy? The answer to that question must be no otherwise you would still be in the same job.

average person spends around 90,000 hours at work - that’s a 1/3 of your lifetime

Well I was happy! I hear some of you say, yes, but could you have been happier? There is nothing worse than the dread of going back to work after a few days off, and if this is how you felt then you, like many others, were in the wrong job. I’m not saying you should wake up every day with a spring in your step but how we spend our days is how we spend our lives. The average person spends around 90,000 hours at work that’s a 1/3 of your lifetime! It’s safe to say your job makes a huge impact on your quality of life and well being.

To get the right work life balance you need to enjoy being at work and ideally this should be a continuation of your day-to-day life, so it doesn’t actually feel like you are at work at all.

For me I enjoy the social side of my job so each time a client returns to me it’s like catching up with an old friend. You get to share of much of their lives and they with yours. You build up trust and they ask you for advice, which gives you a little warm feeling inside like you’ve done a good thing. You’ve earned their respect not just for your talents but also for you as a person.

I would say 80% of the time people choose to come back to you for the person that you are. For me it’s remembering the little things like what they like to do in their spare time, or experiences they have shared. The conversations I have with my clients normally picks up from where we left off last time and before you know it the treatment time is up and you don’t want it to end. Then you’re left with a cliffhanger which know you will have to wait 2/3 weeks to find out what’s happened, so you can’t wait for them return.

I actually get a little excited sometimes when I know a particular client is due so I can catch up with the next installment of their life.

But remember someone who is always on the go and doesn’t devote any time to their personal life might not be the happiest of people. Ask Jack as all work and no play made him a dull boy.

It’s all well and good catching up with clients and having a therapists couch, but you also need to take time for yourself. Your well being is just important as your clients, so just as they seek comfort in opening up or even offloading onto you make sure that you have someone you can speak to, whether that be a family member, friend or even a therapist of your own.

If we are constantly spinning plates then fundamentally all we are doing is running around and allowing ourselves to waste essential energy.

Take time out regularly because if you burn yourself out then you’re no good to yourself let alone anyone else

Gravity may work against you at times, but momentum exists. You can stop and take a breath occasionally. Take time out regularly because if you burn yourself out then you’re no good to yourself let alone anyone else. No matter how busy you are it’s important to block out time for yourself, whether that be partaking in a hobby, going to the gym, watching a box set, reading a book or even just taking 5 minutes to reflect on the day. Most importantly make sure you have some ‘me time’, whatever that phrase means to you.

By Karen Baguley

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