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Safe words - one or set of verbal and non-verbal signs that will be used to stop the play or
slow it down.
Negotiation that takes place after session is focused mainly on the following: possible drawbacks
or otherwise positive moments, feelings and suggestions on the next sessions.
2. Relationships negotiation is a form of negotiation that concerns consideration of building up a
scene relationship or a more committed 24/7 relationships. Partners who are interested in longterm relationships sign up a kind of contract that is similar to one a couple signs when getting
married. Together with the questions that concern BDSM activity, partners discuss long-term
arrangements: type of relationship, agreement on living together, financial and psychological
responsibilities. When both parties agree on TPE relationships they usually agree on signing up
a contract in support of their commitment to BDSM lifestyle and each other. Such contracts do
not have a legal base but they allow partners to determine all the aspects of their lifestyle more
clearly.
Names and Roles of Parties
Generally the opening portion of the contract states the names of the parties, and spells out what
roles they play. Many reflect a degree of affected legalese (e.g., “herein referred to as Master”),
though it is in no way required. Couples who are concerned about the existence of a paper trail
may consider omitting the names, or taking a pseudonym.
Term of Service
The contract should define the period of service. Generally, beginning couples start with a one to
three month contract. This allows for a couple to explore the confines of the rela