On the Coast – Families Issue 96 I October/November 2019 | Page 13

taking other children’s emotions into
account. Making friends is not a priority
for them and they would rather lead a
group or do group activities. Our wind
children need some firm guidance to use
their power in the right way.
PARENT TIP: Wind children are born
leaders and it might be helpful to give them
extra responsibilities in the house and lots
of choices. Praise them for their leadership
abilities and guide them to use their “energy
“in a positive way.
The “Earth” Child
to fire a bomb under them to get them
moving. Earth children like structure and
are natural peacemakers. They are loyal,
good friends and think before they speak.
As earth children they are spectators of
life and you will see them happily
watching their friends play rather than
joining in themselves. They are able to
stay calm in difficult circumstances and
can control their emotions and therefore
don’t easily get angry.
PARENT TIP: Earth children feel more
emotion than they show, and parents should
put in some extra effort to help their children
to put emotions and needs into words.
The “Sky Child”
You may have an Earth child, when she
is solid and stable and a quiet introvert.
Just as the earth is a supportive
environment for trees to grow in, so do
other children like to be close to your
supportive child. They are quiet, good
listeners, and can have a dry sense of
humour. Earth children are low in
energy, introverted and do not show a lot
of emotion. You might struggle to get
your child to finish his/her meal as they
are slow eaters, nothing rushing them
and it might sometimes feel that you need
If you have a child who likes to be the
centre of attention, full of glamour,
sunny and shiny as a star, you will know
you have a Sky child.
Sky children have warm, lively and
joyful personalities. They are very
charming and are brilliant storytellers.
Sky children get easily offended and
angry, but that won’t last for long and
they will quickly forgi ve people around
them with the problems soon forgotten.
Decision making is mostly based on
feelings and not analytical thinking.
Sky children are social little beings,
easily make friends and have the ability
to make other people feel special. They
struggle with self-motivation and to
complete tasks. The Sea mum may
shake her head many times for her
disorganised child’s messy room.
PARENT TIP: As a parent you will need to
bring variety in their life. Sky children love
fun and need room to move and to have
the opportunity to be silly and a having a
willing audience applaud them.
When it comes to motivation to do
something, the Sky child will most likely
choose the “fun way”. If you have a Sea
child, she will go with what is the “right
way” and your Wind child will be motivated
to do anything as long as it is “her way”.
Earth children will choose the path of least
resistance and choose the “easy way”.
By knowing our children’s temperament
styles, we can develop their positive traits
and improve on their areas of growth with
compassion to form their own unique
character.
Lindie Nell has a Master’s degree in Social Work. She is a trained Attachment therapist and Play
therapist. Lindie specialises in working with children who have experienced trauma and attachment
difficulties. Lindie also works with children with anxiety, behavioural problems and self-esteem issues
as well as supporting parents in their parenting. Contact Lindie on 0424 882 013, or visit her
Facebook page Lindie Nell (Child Therapist Central Coast)
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