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Each person can use one relationship/situation from the map and identify a challenge he or she experiences and how he or
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Each member in the group must give at least one challenge. The group discussion can follow on ways to cope with these
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Facilitate the conversation by helping each other to identify coping strategies. For each challenge, a relevant coping style can
she copes with it.
difficult situations.
be identified and explained. Take note of healthy ways of coping, unhealthy ways of coping and challenges they still have to
cope with.
Questions To Ask:
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How did you handle the problem?
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How did you get through that?
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What ways have worked?
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How has this way of coping been helpful?
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Looking back, how could you have done it differently? How would that have been different for you?
A. INFORMATION THAT CAN BE SHARED IN DEALING WITH A PROBLEM
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen - Anon.
There are generally two types of problems and two types of coping styles to deal with these problems. These are problems you can
change, and problems you cannot.
The first question to ask is:
Can you change anything about this problem?
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If you can change the situation by doing something about it, you need a problem-focused coping skill, like problem-solving,
decision-making, stress management.
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If nothing you do can change the situation, then you need an emotion-focused coping skill, such as cognitive restructuring
of expectations, thoughts and beliefs, different use of resources, development of social support, relaxation, and initiation of
pleasurable activities.
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Negative ways of coping would be: alcohol abuse, avoidance, withdrawal, destructive anger, blaming and hazardous sexual
activities.
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