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6. Partake in sensate focus
Under this point, you will be using a powerful tool to help you truly tune into your
bottom’s body. Sensate focus is all about the awareness of touch.
While your thoughts may be centering on your stick being inside of him, what about
your fingers, lips and torso?
Your goal should be total mind body awareness when you are topping your man,
mindfully using all of your senses to truly feel him for his essence and not just for
his love-box.
7. Don’t be a thumper
While it may look fun in films, thumping your man like a rabbit isn’t such a great
thing. Believe it or not, even seasoned bottoms experience pain when you insert
too quickly or pull out too fast.
They also feel discomfort when you make yourself out to be a rapid fire machine
gun. Well – at least some people do.
Instead, start out slow and jointly figure out your cadence. It’s OK to occasionally
ask your man how he is feeling. Trust that your bottom will tell you about his needs
and persuade or dissuade you from picking up the pace.
8. Make sure he releases
Depending upon the dynamics, it is possible that you will release before your part-
ner. There’s nothing wrong with that happening however, it’s not a permission slip
to say, “Ok – my work is done here.”
Remember, he still has some unfinished business to attend to.
If you can continue doing your thing, great. But if you can’t, use other approaches
to help him reach his end point. This isn’t difficult. Kiss him, touch him and love on
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