June 2018 Issue #18 June 2018 PRIDE issue #18 4GUYS | Page 65
1. Mentally and Physically Prepare
Before anything can happen, it is important for you to check your mood. Do you feel
like topping or is your mind elsewhere? If the answer is no and you are just looking
to release, don’t force yourself to top your man.
Most bottoms will be able to detect if you’re truly feeling it and if the experience is
genuine. There’s nothing wrong with vanilla, provided the both of you are down with
an alternative activity.
If the answer is yes and you are in the mood to top, make sure you take the time
to clean yourself properly. It doesn’t hurt to manscape and groom in a way that is
pleasing to your bottom. It will show him you care about what is to come in a way
that sends a positive, respectful message.
Also, don’t forget to grab a pleasure ring so that the fun lasts.
2. Tune into your man’s mood
While you may be in the mood to top, that doesn’t mean your guy is also feeling it.
The answer to this question may not reveal itself until the two of you start playing.
This is why it’s important to mindfully tune into your man and determine where he is
in that particular moment.
For example, is he engaging in lots of kissing and foreplay? Does he seem to be
touching you a lot? This is an indication that your bottom is looking for an emotional
buildup before reaching its full crescendo.
This is your cue to take your time and not be overly aggressive. On the other hand,
if he’s eagerly desiring you to exert your power, consider it a green light to move
forward with passion.
3. Verbally appreciate him
Ask any bottom and they will tell you that narcissistic tops are the worst. This type
of guy is the one who simply inserts, drills and says nothing during the process –
taking care of his own needs without showing appreciation for the bottom.
To avoid being “that guy”, it’s important to compliment your man and let him know
how beautiful he is.
Avoid using phrases that feminize, dehumanize or humiliate him. Hot talk can be
fun and your goal should be to turn your man on – but don’t ruin the moment by
getting carried away.
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