I look at the younger generation
and although some may
feel they have a sense of
entitlement, I see the opposite.
I cheer them on and say “atta
girl” for being able to express
themselves. I applaud young
adults in touch with who they
are, whether it be a gay teen
proud of who they are and
understanding love is love or
a young woman chasing her
dreams because she believes
in herself; these are the fearless
ones we can learn from.
It’s a new age, a different time,
but not too late!
If I could turn back time, there
could have been better choices
I could have made. Oh the
dominos that have fallen from
one bad choice after another
because I hid or suppressed
who I really was. I was shamed
for being “wrong,” not being
“worthy,” etc. If I had the
confidence back then, perhaps I
would be so much further along
in life. Alas, this is my journey
and since I have accepted
myself, found my voice, and
express who I am, I accept where
I came from and move forward.
How can we, who still live with
this iron veil, “un-bulletproof”
ourselves and find a way to
shed it and be more loving and
accepting of ourselves?
As a motivational influencer,
I look at audiences who seek
more and more “self-help.” I
notice so many are between the
ages of thirty-five and seventy.
Does it take a cataclysmic
event? Do we awaken at a
certain age? All I know is that
I look at a twenty-year-old and
think they have a certain wisdom
for their age I did not. However,
that wisdom is embedded in a
confidence, curiosity, and open
heartedness I did not have
during those suppressed years
of my life.
• Acceptance. You are all you
need to be. Accept yourself
and love everything you are.
Your past is behind you. You
are allowed and expected
to move forward on your
journey. Time does not stand
still. With love, gently remind
yourself how far you have
come.
I see that open heartedness
is the key. They don’t seem to
judge. Things are okay with
them, yet can be improved. It’s
refreshing, actually, to see how
their life will play out. I hope with
less lessons than I had to have.
• Live in your life. Be in, ALL
in. Live in your life, not
through it. Pay attention to
your feelings. How do you
feel? Do certain people,
places, or events make you
feel good or bad? Eliminate
as much as possible the
negatives from your life. Do
more of what serves your
body, mind, and soul. This is
a great path to healing.
• Opinions are not truths.
Release the notion of
what “they” will think.
Their (negative) opinion or
judgement is not a truth.
If you want to dye your
hair purple and it makes
you smile every time you
look at yourself, then dye it
purple! Everyone will have
an opinion and, typically,
it’s a reflection of their own
insecurities.
• There are truths and the
true truth. If I showed you a
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