does not solve life’s
problems. Notice how rich
people always want more.
This should be a tip-off to
you that “more” is never
enough. If you can learn
this before you get rich,
you’ll save yourself a lot of
time in creating your joy.
• Peace and joy are
different sides of the
same coin. Joy is peace
dancing; peace is joy
resting. Everyone is
seeking peace, even if
they are not consciously
aware of it. We want to
feel safe. We want to
stop suffering. We want
to relax and not worry.
This is what peace is.
Seek joy and you will find
peace. Seek peace and
you will find joy.
38 | Eydis Magazine
• Worry and guilt are as
useless as complaining.
People think if they worry,
it will help them avoid
feeling bad in the future.
This is a fallacy. Instead,
all it does is guarantee
they feel bad now. Many
people think guilt will
serve as adequate selfpunishment for hurting
others or insure we won’t
do something hurtful
again;, but it does not
correct a wrong and is
an inefficient way to try
to influence the future.
It’s just the ego’s way of
getting us to feel bad in
the present.
Instead, change worry
to concern and take
action as needed. If
there is nothing you can
do, realize worry will not
help anything, and let
go. Change guilt to an
appreciation of learning
a lesson, and let yourself
feel good in the present
about your growth. This
is what will help you do
better in the future while
feeling better now.
May your lives be filled with joy
and peace, and may you have
the wealth money can’t buy.
David is a licensed
psychologist in private
practice who has been
leading people into life
fulfillment for more
than thirty years. His
work with Kate Sholonski at Triumph
Leadership Group involves creating
and sustaining healthy and productive
relationships in the workplace. David is
a contributing author to four books, has
been a TV talk show host, and resides in
rural Minnesota with his wife, Carol.