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does not solve life’s problems. Notice how rich people always want more. This should be a tip-off to you that “more” is never enough. If you can learn this before you get rich, you’ll save yourself a lot of time in creating your joy. • Peace and joy are different sides of the same coin. Joy is peace dancing; peace is joy resting. Everyone is seeking peace, even if they are not consciously aware of it. We want to feel safe. We want to stop suffering. We want to relax and not worry. This is what peace is. Seek joy and you will find peace. Seek peace and you will find joy. 38 | Eydis Magazine • Worry and guilt are as useless as complaining. People think if they worry, it will help them avoid feeling bad in the future. This is a fallacy. Instead, all it does is guarantee they feel bad now. Many people think guilt will serve as adequate selfpunishment for hurting others or insure we won’t do something hurtful again;, but it does not correct a wrong and is an inefficient way to try to influence the future. It’s just the ego’s way of getting us to feel bad in the present. Instead, change worry to concern and take action as needed. If there is nothing you can do, realize worry will not help anything, and let go. Change guilt to an appreciation of learning a lesson, and let yourself feel good in the present about your growth. This is what will help you do better in the future while feeling better now. May your lives be filled with joy and peace, and may you have the wealth money can’t buy. David is a licensed psychologist in private practice who has been leading people into life fulfillment for more than thirty years. His work with Kate Sholonski at Triumph Leadership Group involves creating and sustaining healthy and productive relationships in the workplace. David is a contributing author to four books, has been a TV talk show host, and resides in rural Minnesota with his wife, Carol.