Take a deep breath as an
observer and sit back as you
watch objectively as the dramas
unfold; try not to cast judgement
or shame of guilt on any of
the offenders. Can we resist
gossiping or supporting those
that do? Always remember,
misery loves company.
The good news is there’s a way
out! It’s clean, clear, and fresh (not
a new laundry detergent); it’s called
honesty. Anyone can be honest
and have compassion for any and
all who suffer replicating a tired,
old drama. Maybe they need the
group’s attention? Maybe the
drama bonds the group against
something to unite them for
something bigger? Maybe it’s
serves an unseen purpose?
It takes courage to set the tone
and change the dysfunctional
dynamics of uncomfortable
dramas into functional adult
conversation with compassion
and care. Most dramas are
immature and attention
getting for all the wrong
reasons. Everyone at least
subconsciously wants to be
heard and treated with respect.
In these days of political
correctness, honest
communication has stopped
people from challenging
anyone for fear of rocking the
boat, unintentionally creating
emotional tyranny for all. It can
be refreshing to shake things
up in a deep and profound
way. Liberating ourselves
from repetitive dramas can
be exciting, refreshing, and
functional too! In many cases,
a complacent stagnancy of the
same old-same old can be so
predictable and boring that
people won’t even be seen
at the same event together. I
find most often when they do,
emotional fireworks ensue. Being
truthful, honest, and respectful
can curtail the dramatic
outbursts and allow peace and
functionality to be present. It was
after all a summer picnic or get
together, remember? Pleasure,
what a concept!
I’ve found most of the time no
one wants to be at the center of
a negative drama no less as a
part of a get together. I know a
little alcohol can change things
“The truth never killed anyone but very often lies do!”
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