PERSONAL FREEDOM
BEYOND
DYSFUNCTION
“It’s no picnic?
Free yourself from the tyranny of dysfunction!”
by Gary Stuart
S
ummer is here; it’s time to enjoy the
season by going outside, having
picnics, and enjoying concerts, plus vacation
time at lakes and beaches enjoying all the
good things life has to offer.
Is it easier to hold on
while and harder to
let go, or harder to let go
and easier to hold on?
There are also other things to investigate
as well. Our nation found its liberty and
freedom over tyranny and we can do the
same in every aspect of our lives. How about
expanding your liberty and freedom over
self-imposed emotional tyranny of patterns
that don’t serve or empower you? How
about discovering that you have to power to
make yourself happy and fulfilled? Life is too
short not to do those things, and there’s no
more time to waste. Suffering will always be
there if you find it’s your comfort zone. As a
communication expert in hidden dynamics,
I often see age-old family dramas and
traumas reenacted daily in most of our lives.
They’ve become such a habit we don’t even
recognize we’re repeating the “same old
same old” that doesn’t serve us in a deep
and positive way.
It’s all about choice; at the very least feeling
you have to have one and be fully present
when it’s needed. Everyone knows there
will be a blowout at someone’s barbeque or
someone’s feelings will be hurt; they either
won’t speak or storm out in a dramatic rage.
It happens all the time, whether it’s 4th of
July, Thanksgiving, or an innocent picnic.
Someone is bound to disapprove or state
something embarrassing or shameful that
betrays a confidence, making a summer
fest turn into “Nightmare on Elm Street.”
It’s all par for the course in family dynamics.
Sometimes a significant other isn’t liked and
that’s all it takes for the emotional fireworks
to start! Forget nightfall, the dinner table is
as good as any location for a dysfunctional
drama to ensue. So much for fun and frolic;
now it’s wet blanket time.
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