I have written about this in
numerous articles, including last
month’s Transforming Fear. To
summarize the techniques:
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Remember that the fight/
flight response lasts only
ninety seconds
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Use mindfulness, breath,
and relaxation to calm
your thoughts and body’s
reactions
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Change from worrying to
doing.
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Reduce your sensory and
emotional input with energy
modulation and other
techniques.
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Use good boundaries.
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Stay out of story (fear is False
Evidence Appearing Real).
I believe that fear, like anger, can
be looked at as a secondary issue.
In fact, fear and anger appear
to often be distractors and thus
agents of resistance. Let me pause
for a moment to acknowledge
that sensory overload and other
biological factors can be the source
of anxiety, or elevated emotional
states that trigger anger. But I
have seen that worry and anger
flood the system so that you are
effectively distracted from the real
issues. Thus patterns, themes, and
root causes are often buried under
layers of behaviors and words.
Consequently, fear and anger can
be perceived as communicators—
pointing you, or a therapist, to the
underlying truths.
I’ve actually done this, and it’s
true that the thing that was
kept in hiding is not as big and
scary as formerly believed. In
fact, it’s always smaller and less
frightening than the unknown that
I was running from. Tolle is right!
What is the truth that you may
be running from?
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Often it is a misunderstanding
or inaccuracy that developed
from the experiences of your
inner child. Transform yourself
into the caring adult and
assure your inner child that
you have a deeper, broader
understanding of the events,
as well as the skills to keep
your inner child/you safe.
If you experienced a
traumatic event, I urge
you to partner with a
qualified trauma expert to
help you release without
reliving the trauma. These
include professionals
trained in Havening
Therapy, EMDR (Eye
Movement Desensitization
and Reprocessing), EFT
(Emotional Freedom
Technique), or Somatic
(Body-Oriented) Therapy.
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Are you running from your
own worth? Author Marianne
Williamson says: “Our
deepest fear is not that we are
inadequate. Our deepest fear
is that we are powerful beyond
measure. It is our light, not our
darkness that most frightens
us…as we are liberated from
our own fear, our presence
automatically liberates others.”
Might you be ready to uncover
the layers between you and who
you really are?
Judy Lipson is a
licensed, professional
counselor and
educational strategist
in West Bloomfield,
MI. She helps clients
of all ages who have learning difficulties,
work or school related anxiety, ADHD,
Asperger’s Syndrome or Autism Spectrum
Disorders. Contact Judy at 248.568.8665
and [email protected], and visit
SpiralWisdom.net for more information.
This article is for informational purposes
and is not meant to replace medical care.
Humans by nature are inclined to
move away from those things that
are uncomfortable. Regarding
fear, author Eckhart Tolle reminds
us to stop running from the fear
and to turn to look at it instead.
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