IT’S NOT WHAT
YOU SAY,
It’s How You
Say It!
by Sharon Carne
D
id you ever hear
this when you were
growing up: “Don’t
you use that tone of voice with
me!” or “Quit whining!” Every
one of us becomes aware of tone
of voice from a very early age.
Have you ever politely asked
someone, “How are you?”
and received an answer of
“I’m fine!” in a tone of voice
that told you immediately that
person was not fine? It happens
all the time.
Try this, just for fun! How many
different ways can you say the
word oh? Have even more fun
and do this with a friend. You
will be surpr ised at how many
ways such a simple word can be
expressed.
Human beings are ultra sensitive
to the tone of the voice. This
tone carries the emotional
undercurrent of what is being
said. We are masters at noticing
and interpreting this emotional
undercurrent. Most of the time,
we do this unconsciously.
But that’s not all. There is a
deeper layer to the effect of
words and tone of voice that
few people are aware of. This
deeper layer can be a serious
challenge for those who are
highly empathic.
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